Unfortunately, adults have…methods at their disposal for denying the violence done to them in youth and taking that violence out on others. With sophisticated ideological justifications they can even contrive to pass it off as a good thing. The less inclination they show to recognize and revise this ingenious self- delusion, the more likely it is that others will be made to suffer the consequences. And it is this that ultimately confronts us with the apparent paradox of a nice, well- behaved child consummately skilled in living up to the adults’ expectations and never voicing any criticism of them ending up thirty years later as a commandant in Auschwitz or as an Adolf Eichmann.
Alice Miller – What is Hatred? – Paths of Life, Six Case Histories